Ancestor Bio – Sally Ann Darling (c. 1822-18??)

52 Ancestors – Week 2018-45

By Don Taylor

Tracking down women in 19th Century records is often difficult. Over the past week or so, I’ve been searching for records about Sally Ann Darling, the sister of Rufus Holton Darling as part of my Darling research in Western New York. Searching many new sources, I’ve just not been successful in finding anything new about Sally Ann. I’m only barely convinced that she existed. That said, searching for evidence of Sally Ann led me to several other facts of interest, but first, what I think I know about Sally Ann.

Darling Research 2018 –The 6th child of  #48 (Abner Darling)

List of Grandparents

Sally Ann Darling (c. 1822-18??)

Birth

I have no real proof that Sally Ann Darling existed. I have found her in several trees shared by other people, including Family Search, but have not found any record proving positively that she existed. If Sally Ann were born in 1822, she would likely be one of the two females in the household of Abner Darling of Clarkson, New York aged 5 to 9 during the 1830 Census (the other likely being Hannah).

Similarly, with the death of Abner in 1839, she would have likely shown up in the 1840 Census record of her brother Rufus Darling who took over as head of the household. Sure enough, she appears to be in his household.  Rufus’ household includes two families, 15-19 years of age whom I believe are likely Sally Ann and Hannah.

Death

Her brother, Abner C. Darling’s obituary has no mention of Sally Ann. No entry is not evidence that Sally Ann didn’t exist nor does it provide evidence that Sally Ann had passed. However, it adds to my concern that the two children in Abner (senior) and Rufus’s census records could be entirely different people.  That said, if Sally Ann did exist, I suspect that she died sometime between 1840 and 1880.

Once again, my research for Sally Ann, so far, has not yielded any positive evidence of her existence.  

Bright Shiny Objects

However, my research for Sally Ann yielded several other bits of information (Bright Shiny Objects – BSOs) regarding other Darlings in Monroe County, New York.  It is my practice to ignore BSOs while researching someone, save the information or links to the information and come back to them later. I did that in this case and learned several things.

I confirmed that there was another Rufus Darling who lived in Monroe County during 1887. Second great-grandfather Rufus Holton Darling died in 1857; Rufus Harry Darling was living in Kalamazoo at that time. Additionally, Rufus A. Darling (son of Franklin C. Darling and Ellen Norton) was living in Minnesota in the 1880s. So, the Rufus Darling residing in Monroe County in 1887 is a heretofore unknown Rufus.

I found several newspaper articles indicating that Abner Darling had mail remaining at the post office as early as April 1824.  I knew that Abner was in Paris, Oneida County in 1820 and in Monroe County in 1830. Seeing that he had mail waiting for him in Monroe County in 1824 suggests that he located to Monroe County before April 1924, I also found a “History of Clarkson” newspaper article which confirmed Abner Darling’s death as Jan 11, 1839. The article also indicates that the cemetery was named the “Kenyon Cemetery” at that time rather than “Lakeside Cemetery” as it is currently known as.

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Sources

  • 1830 Census, Abner Darling – Clarkson, Monroe, New York – Page 271. Source Citation
1830; Census Place: Clarkson, Monroe, New York; Series: M19; Roll: 94; Page: 271; Family History Library Film: 001715 4
  • 1840 Census (FS), Family Search, New York, Monroe, Clarkson, Page 177 – Rufus H Darling.
  • Appleton Crescent (Appleton, WI), 1880-09-25, Page 3 – AN OLD SETTLER DEPARTS. – Death of Abner C. Darling. Newspapers.com., Appleton Crescent, Appleton, Wisc.
  • Brockport Republic (Brockport, NY) – 1887-02-17 – February 17, 1887, Page 3, Column 4, “Parma” – Rufus Darling. http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org.
  • Brockport Republic (Brockport, NY) – 1890-07-17 – Abner Darling. The Brockport republic. July 17, 1890, Page 3, Col 2, Paragraph 14 – nyshistoricnewspapers – Abner Darling.

Tracing 19th Century Women & Sally Ann (?) Darling.

Tracing early 19th Century Women 

Tracing women in early 19th century history can often be a difficult process. Women often didn’t exist except in the context of their wifely status. Such is the case of Sally Ann (unknown) Darling.  She is only mentioned in a couple documents that I have found, so far. I first encountered her name when I found the obituary of her son, Rufus Holton Darling, which mentioned that he is the son of Abner and Sally Darling. I also traced her husband, Abner Darling. That search yielded his will, which made Sally Ann the executrix.  It mentions nothing other than her name. It doesn’t even mention the names of their children.  In court, men attested to the validity of the will and it doesn’t appear that she ever addressed the court. The 1840 Census shows that Rufus H Darling is living at the same location (based on neighbors) that Abner Darling lived at before. Living with him was an older woman that I presume is Rufus’s mother – Abner’s wife – Sally Ann. Sadly, that is about the extent of what I have learned about Sally Ann.

Bio – Sally Ann (Unknown) Darling (c. 1780-aft 1840?)

1780 – Birth – The 1840 Census infers that she was 50-59 years old suggesting a birth year of 1780-1790. The 1830 Census infers that she was 40-49 years old also.
1820 – Appears to be living with husband, Abner Darling, and 7 children in Paris, New York.[i]
1830 – Appears to be living with husband, Abner Darling, and 8 children in Clarkson, New York.[ii]
1839 – Sally’s husband Abner dies. She is made executrix of the will and inherits everything. She is living in Clarkson, New York.[iii]
1840 – Apparently living with son, Rufus H Darling, and four other children in Clarkson, New York. [iv] 
I have been unable to find Sally in the 1850 Census.

List of Greats

12. Rufus Harry Darling (1857-1917) 
24. Rufus Holton Darling (1816-1857)
49. Sally Ann [Darling] 

Further Action

·      I am further researching for Rufus Holton Darling’s siblings.  Hopefully, results of that search will provide additional information or clues regarding Sally Ann.
·      Third cousins on the Darling DNA profile would share Abner and Sally Ann as common ancestors to my mother-in-law.  Following clues there may help open this new brick wall.

ENDNOTES & SOURCES

[i] 1820 Census; New York, Oneida, Paris, Page 267 – Abner Darling; Ancestry.com
[ii] 1830 Census; New York, Monroe, Clarkson, Page 271 – Abner Darling; Ancestry.com.
[iii] New York Wills and Probate Records, 1659-1999; Monroe – Wills, Vol 002, 1835-1841, Pages 329-331 (362-364 of 513); Abner Darling. Ancestry.com. Also, see the transcript.
[iv] 1840 Census; New York, Monroe, Clarkson, Page 177 – Rufus H Darling.; Ancestry.com.

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