2nd Great-Grandaunt – Deidamia Darling (1813-?)

Following the children sometimes is the key.

By Don Taylor

This week I looked at the life of Deidamia Darling. She is the daughter of Abner Darling (1780-1839) and Sally Ann Munsell (1784-?). Through researching Deidamia, I learned that Sally Ann (Munsell) Darling didn’t vanish after the death of Abner. Instead, she was living with Deidamia and Lawrence Limbocker in 1870. By following the life of Deidamia, a 2nd great-grandaunt, I learned more about 3rd great-grandmother Sally Ann. I find following the descendants of an individual much more difficult than researching ancestors from the more recent to the further back than. But, through doing so I am able to discover new information.

Howell-Darling 2017 Research

List of Grandparents

Bio – Deidamia Darling (1813-?)

Deidamia Darling was born between 1812 and 1814. Probably 1813[i]. It is possible she was born on the Beekman Patent in Dutchess County, New York, but I believe she was more likely born in Paris, Oneida County, New York to Abner and Sally Ann (Munsell) Darling.

Deidamia grew up with seven siblings. They were

Abner moved his family west, first to Paris, Oneida County New York (before 1820) and again to Clarkson, Monroe County, New York.

About 1833, Deidamia married Lawrence G Limbocker[ii] It isn’t clear if they were married in New York or Michigan. Lawrence and Deidamia appear to have had three children. [iii].

Child Name Born Married Death
Abner D. Limbocker 1834 18xx – Amretta Quayle Unknown
Appolus F. Limbocker 1837 Mar 1870 – Almena Rose Boylson Unknown
Sarah Ann Limbocker 1838 2 Oct 1857 – Thomas J Foster Unknown

By 1934, Lawrence and Deidamia moved west to Michigan where their first son was born.

In 1837, Lawrence purchased 40 acres of land began farming it. The legal description of the property is Michigan, MICHIGAN-TOLEDO STRIP, Range 001E, Township 0035, Section 3, NW1⁄4SE1⁄4.

The 1840 Census finds Lawrence Limbocker living in Leoni Township, Jackson County, Michigan with 2 males & 1 female under 5 and 1 female 20 to 29.[iv] This fits the known family perfectly. Leoni is just east of Jackson, MI and about 30 miles west of Ann Arbor, MI.

The 1850 Census portrays a household consisting of Lawrence (L.B.), apparent wife “Drodana,” and three children, Abner, Apollos and Sarah A. Lawrence is farming the land and the three children are attending school.[v]

The 1860 Census show Lawrence and Deidamia living in Batavia, Branch County, Michigan. Their two sons are still living with them.[vi] Also living with them is Betsey Darling, age 70, born in New York. Who Betsey was is unknown. With the same surname as Deidamia, I presume Betsey is an unknown aunt of Deidamia.

In March of 1870, Lawrence and Deidamia’s son Apollos married Almena Rose Boylson. They were living with Lawrence and Deidamia during the 1870 census taken in June. Also living there was son Abner, who was working as a farm laborer. There is a 13-year-old girl, Dora Willie residing with them. I suspect she is Rose’s child from another marriage. Finally, there is Sally A Darling the 85-year-old mother of Deidamia living with them.[vii]

The last record I have found for Deidamia is 1880 Census which shows Lawrence and Deidamia living together in Batavia, Branch County, Michigan.[viii]

I have not discovered a record of Deidamia’s death. Nor have I found any evidence of her in the 1900 Census, I suspect Deidamia may have died between 1880 and 1900.

Further Actions / Follow-up

  • Determine Sally Ann’s death information. (high)
  • Determine Sally Ann’s location in 1860. (medium)
  • Determine who Betsey Darling (1790-?) is in relation to Deidamia.
  • Determine Deidamia’s death date and burial (low)

 Endnotes & Additional Sources

[i] The 1850 and 1860 Censuses indicate the was 36 and 46 respectively, and the 1870 and 1880 Census indicate she was 57 and 67 respectively. Because of the cultural stigma regarding the age of women, I believe the older age suggested is more likely. Thus, I believe she was born in 1812 or 1813.

[ii] Cross Index to Wills of Monroe County, New York, Monroe County Library, Page 54 of 98. Limbocker, Lawrence; Mich, wife, Diadema heir of Abner Darling, Clarkson. http://www.libraryweb.org/~digitized/books/Cross_index_to_wills_of_Monroe_County_1821-1863_Vol._1B.pdf.

[iii] In various records the Limbocker name is spelled different ways—Limbocker, Limbacker, and Lemboekor. I have standardized on Limbocker.

[iv] 1840 Census (A), Ancestry, Lowrence Limbocker (Lawrence Limbocker). Year: 1840; Census Place: Leoni, Jackson, Michigan; Roll: 206; Page: 160; Family History Library Film: 001479. https://search.ancestry.com/collections/8057/records/3579923.

[v] 1850 Census (A) (NARA), Ancestry, L G Limbacker (Limbocker) – Giard, Branch, Michigan. 1850; Census Place: Girard, Branch, Michigan; Roll: M432_347; Page: 300B; Image: 66

[vi] 1860 Census (A), Ancestry, Lawrence Limbocker – Batavia, Branch, Michigan. Source Citation Year: 1860; Census Place: Batavia, Branch, Michigan; Roll: M653_538; Page: 734; Family History Library Film: 803538

[vii] 1870 Census (A), Ancestry, 1870 Census – Lawrence Limbocker – Batavia, Branch, Michigan.

[viii] 1880 Census (A), Lawrence Limbocker – Batavia, Branch, Michigan. Year: 1880; Census Place: Batavia, Branch, Michigan; Roll: 573; Family History Film: 1254573; Page: 462B; Enumeration District: 024

Ancestry Hints and Timothy Munsell

Darling Research
Treasure Chest Thursday

Email saying I have 7 new hints on Darling-HuberI love those Ancestry hints.  I received another message that I had hints in my Darling-Huber research. This time regarding my wife’s 4th great-grandfather, Timothy Munsell.  Because it was a direct ancestor, I jumped at the chance to investigate and see what they had. (See Three approaches to Ancestry Hints for why.)

1790 Census

Because of the 1790 Census,

1790 Census Timothy Munsell - 1 3-2
1790 Census
Timothy Munsell

Timothy Munsell  – 1  3  2

Free White Persons – Males – 16 and over: 1
Free White Persons – Males – Under 16:  3
Free White Persons – Females: 2

I was fairly sure that:

The one male 16 and over was clearly Timothy.

I was fairly certain the two females identified were his wife, Eleshiba, and his 10-year-old daughter Sally Ann.

That left three males under 16 (born between 1773 and 1790) that I didn’t know who they were. I had entered them into my system as sundry relations, “unknown” with a note they were possibly sons of Timothy Munsell.

Timothy and Eleshiba had another son that I knew about, William, but he was born in January of 1770 and thus would have been 20 during 1790 census. I just figured he wasn’t at home any longer.

Ancestry Hint

The Ancestry Hint brought me to “Connecticut Town Birth Records, pre-1870 (Barbour Collection) – Lyme Vital Records 1667-1852” – Pages 172 and 173 provided names and birthdates for the children:

All entries are per Vol 1, Page 150 – Items bolded were new bits of information for me.

Anna, d. Timothy & Elishaba, b. Sept 7, 1775; d. June 18, 1777
James, s. Timothy & Elishabe, b. June 28, 1773
John Andross, s. Timothy & Elishaba, b. July 9, 1781
Sally Ann, d. Timothy & Elishabe, b. Oct 23, 1784
Timothy, s. Timothy & Elishabe, b. Apr/ 16, 1778
William, s. Timothy & Elishaba. b. Jan 24, 1770, at New London

So, I learned the names and birthdates of the three previously unknown children and confirmed they were the children of Timothy and Elishabe. I also learned of a sixth child, Anna, that died when only two years old.

One more thing, I also learned that Timothy’s parents were John and Mary (I knew his father was John before this). And now know he was born Nov. 24, 1745. (Before, I had he was born “before 1752.”

Timothy, s. John & Mary, b. Nov. 24, 1745            L-6      156

Treasure Chest This Ancestry hint provided new information; it confirmed other information regarding a direct ancestor, and it identified two new ancestors. That is what I cal a real genealogical Treasure Chest.

Follow-up Actions

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Three approaches to Ancestry Hints

By Don Taylor

We all get them, at least we do if we subscribe to Ancestry.Com and we have a tree on Ancestry. Yes, I’m talking about hints – the beautiful little leaves that let you know that Ancestry thinks it has information that will be of interest to you.  And they are right, I am interested in all those leaves that provide hints to sources and records that probably relate to people in my tree. The problem is I just don’t have enough time to follow all those hints and verify if they really relate to people in my tree that I care about.

I’ll admit, I have a lot of people in my tree I don’t care much about. The first husband of the second wife of my ancestor is such a person.  In my Howell/Darling tree, I have over 4500 hints and in my Roberts/Brown tree; I have over 13,000 hints. There is no way I can look at them all, so I needed to come up with a reasonable plan to relate to Ancestry Hints.

First of all, I recognize that they are Bright Shiny Objects that will take up my time. If I am not careful, they will sap my energy from researching the people that are important to me. So, I fundamentally ignore them. Unless there is a hint regarding an individual that I am currently researching, I ignore Ancestry hints as a matter of normal activity.

screen-shot-2016-10-08-at-3-58-41-pmscreen-shot-2016-10-08-at-3-58-50-pmI do subscribe to receiving alerts about new hints via email.  It is the default setting to receive alerts for new hints, but if you aren’t receiving them, In the upper right-hand corner of your Ancestry account, click on your name, then on Your Alerts. You will then see all the family trees you have access to.  Click “change delivery options” I select to receive New Hints monthly.

Next, in my email program (I use Outlook), I have created a rule that says if the message came from ancestry@ancestry.com and it has the following text in the message, “New Hints in Darling-Huber,” move the message to a Darling-Huber folder in my email system.

When I have a chance to work on my Darling-Huber tree, I go to that Howell-Darling folder and see what I have in the folder. Then I look at the individuals that the emails indicate Ancestry has hints for. As an example, recently it indicated:

John Henry Gensler (1876-1956)

1 new hint

U.S., Social Security Applications and Claims Index, 1936-2007

Then I go to my Genealogical Program, open up my Darling-Huber tree and search for all individuals named Gensler. Are any of the Genslers in my tree a direct ancestor of my root person? Many genealogical programs use a different icon for individuals that are direct line ancestors and descendants of the root person, so it is easy to see. In this case, none of the Genslers in my Darling-Huber research are directly related so I can ignore the email. (In this case, John Henry Gensler is the father-in-law of the nephew of one of my wife’s great-grandmothers.) I haven’t ignored the hint on Ancestry, that is still there if I need to research John Henry Gensler further in the future but it is no longer in my email.


The next hint is about Sally Munsell. Again, a quick search for persons with the surname Munsell lists Sally Ann Munsell – One of my wife’s 3rd great-grandmothers.  Definitely, a person I want to glean the facts from any appropriate hints and someone I would follow the hints immediately.

Finally, another hint I received was about Samuel Swayze. I have many Swayze’s identified in my wife’s family tree – including my wife’s 5th great-grandfather, Amos Swayze. I do not have this particular Samuel Swayze connected to anyone in my tree. However, this Samuel lived in the same place as other relations at the same time; however, I haven’t proven the connection yet. I know he isn’t a direct ancestor, but he is likely a close relative to a direct ancestor.  This would be a person I would want to research more thoroughly in the future.  As such, I would add a task to my research tasks to:

Investigate Ancestry Hints regarding Samuel Swayze (1653-1738) (The dates are to differentiate him from several other Samuel Swayze’s in my tree.) I’ll get to researching these hints, but probably not today. So, they are in my queue.

My Three Approaches.

  1. Investigate hints for known direct-line ancestors.
  2. Queue hints about potential bloodline relatives with direct-line surnames.
  3. Ignore hints about lines that are not direct line surnames.

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